Dad never liked to tell people “you should,“¹ even though his experience and wisdom could easily give him such authority. He preferred to offer options and let the other person decide how to proceed, even if the decision was to do nothing at all. Likewise, I hesitate to offer unsolicited advice, at least when doing so doesn’t lead to additional harm to anyone. While my goal is to be mindful of my actions, I understand that isn’t the case with everyone. Even if it was, how do we know what we consider to be logical, thoughtful actions are accepted the same way by others? I don’t think we always can. It depends too much on personal perspectives.
I have a lot of experience cashiering in retail settings. As a cashier, I have felt disrespected and considered the customer rude when they don’t hand their cash or form of payment to me. Especially when they drop it on the counter in front of me. I know other cashiers feel the same way. So we try to always think of the cashiers when we are making a purchase, and hand the money or card to them pleasantly. It’s a little thing, but we know how much it can matter.
My girlfriend is a nurse. Although she also has cashiered in retail, it has been a long time for her. In that time, working in a hospital, she has come to understand just how filthy and germ-covered things can be. Including money. Including cashiers’ hands. I’ve noticed that when she makes a purchase at a store, she often doesn’t put it in the cashier’s hand.
Our perspectives, based on our experiences, are different. Am I wrong? Is she? I don’t know that either of us are.
¹A lot of what I know — and don’t know — I picked up from my dad. You’ll probably notice that in my posts.